Patience is a virtue

Un-Pregnant Cindy is very easy going. I do my best to remember that during pregnancy, because Pregnant Cindy isn't always so easy going.

If I was perfect, I could avoid responding to any comment for 5 minutes. That's all the time it would take for both of us to return to rationality. I'm not even close to perfect though.

Luckily, we tend to come to our sense after 5 minutes, regardless of what's said. Then about 5 minutes after that we usually can break to the root of the problem (or close enough to it) and find what really caused everything, or at least come close.

So, even if we definitely fight more during pregnancy, we come to our sense quick and don't hold grudge. We often come out with the real feelings behind the frustration expressed, and occasionally even something to alleviate some of that frustration. Our relationship works well in this area.

It has also been a great deal easier this second go round. The first pregnancy was very new, and the concerns seemed more pressing. Now, we have something to compare it to, and an idea of what will happen in the coming months. The mental drama is a little bit easier, even if the physical stuff is pretty much the same.