It's odd that the impending birth of the boy takes such a back seat. With Lily, our first, it was an obsession. We had a room ready by the middle of the second trimester. We had flow charts, secret meetings and numerous lists, just to find a name. The pregnancy, with all its urges and cravings, was all we talked about. The way our life would change was all we thought about.
The second child is two months away, as of today, since the birth is scheduled for March 18th. We have both admitted to guilty feelings of how little time and thought we put into the boy. We have barely scratched the surface on his bedroom. We haven't talked about a name in over a month. We both openly admit not even having the time to think about the boy.
The main reason for this is obvious.....Lily has been a blast of joy and labor. She takes our time up, and our only regret is not having more time to give her.
I think another factor is that the boy won't change our lives all that much. It will be twice as much work, but it will be the same tasks. We kind of know what to expect in feeding, changing and parenting a baby. Maybe the only thing we have left to learn about babies is that they are snowflakes, and no two are alike.
Finally, it's very hard to love someone you never met on the same level as the near and present. Three will become four very naturally, but it can't be faked or rushed. The boy will be greeted with open arms and will be very loved - this much I am sure of - but we need to start introductions before we can get to know each other.
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